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If you are reading this, chances are you’ve already tried everything else - Shaadi apps, “rishta aunties,” social circles, and even hoping your parents’ network pulls through. You’re successful, emotionally aware, and ready for a serious relationship. But despite doing your part, this one area of your life still feels stuck.
The truth is, you’re not the problem-the system is.
To solve that, you’ve talked to The Date Crew, seen how the process works, and finally feel like there’s a structured, supportive path to get this part of your life sorted.
Now comes the tough part: explaining it to your parents or someone close.
Before you jump into that conversation, it helps to know what you might hear and how to respond with confidence and calm.
đźš« Common Objections You Might Hear
1. “We’re already spending on Shaadi, BharatMatrimony, etc.”
2. “We tried a marriage bureau-didn’t work out.”
3. “You spent on that app/club/membership, and nothing came from it.”
4. “Let’s ask around in our network first.”
‍5. “This is way too expensive-we’ll manage on our own.”
6. “We’re not in such a bad state that we need a matchmaker.”
🧠Before You Respond, A Gentle Reminder:
Your parents and well-wishers mean well. They want the best for you.
But you’re the one living the day-to-day reality of being single.
You're juggling a demanding career, getting judged on first impressions, dealing with pressure from relatives, and still trying to stay hopeful through it all.
So if you're doing well professionally but struggling emotionally with this part of your life, you deserve to make this decision for yourself.
Still, we get it. Families are part of the equation. So let’s equip you with calm, clear responses to help them understand where you’re coming from.
❌ Objection 1: “We’re already spending on so many portals like Shaadi, BharatMatrimony…”
Your Reality:‍
You’re doing your best-setting up profiles, replying to messages, having awkward small talk, and still not getting anywhere. Sometimes, your parents are managing the profile for you-which adds even more pressure on them to constantly follow up, stay polite, and “keep things moving” with the other side. It gets tiring for everyone involved.
Their Concern:‍
They believe that since money is already going into these platforms, there’s no need to spend more elsewhere.
What They Need to Hear:‍
“Those platforms are just listing services. They give us quantity, not quality. And let’s be honest-it’s emotionally draining. Either I’m spending all my time swiping and texting strangers, or you’re the one following up and getting pulled into it. The Date Crew changes the game. They manage the entire process for me-shortlisting, vetting, reaching out, and only bringing serious, aligned matches to the table. It’s not just my load they take off-it’s yours too.”
❌ Objection 2: “We already spoke to a marriage bureau and that didn’t work out.”
Your Reality:‍
You may have done the rishta bureau route. You filled a form, paid a fee, got a few profiles sent via WhatsApp, and nothing felt personal. It was transactional. You didn’t feel seen- you were just another file on their shelf.
Their Concern:‍
They worry this will be another cold, outdated experience.
What They Need to Hear:
‍“This isn’t a rishta bureau. The Date Crew actually takes time to understand who I am, what I value, and how I want to approach marriage. They’re modern, they listen, and they care. I’m not chasing a list of biodatas-they’re building a process that works for me. It’s curated, thoughtful, and ongoing-not a one-time data dump.”
❌ Objection 3: “You’ve already spent on this new app or club, or service, and nothing happened there either.”
Your Reality:‍
You’ve tried the apps, premium memberships, singles events, and even those expensive dating clubs. You’ve been proactive, but all those efforts ended with either ghosting, mismatches, or situationships. You don’t need more activity- you need progress.
Their Concern:‍
They think you’re wasting money again.
What They Need to Hear:‍
“Yes, I’ve tried a lot of things. And they’ve shown me what doesn’t work. I don’t want to repeat the cycle. This isn’t just another app or club-The Date Crew gives me structure, strategy, and support. It’s not about more effort-it’s about smarter effort. They’ve helped thousands like me move forward with clarity. That’s what I need now.”
❌ Objection 4: “Let’s first explore within our network before going outside.”
Your Reality:‍
You’ve been waiting for someone’s cousin’s friend or family connection to magically show up. But these networks rarely produce aligned matches-and when they do, the dynamic is awkward, outdated, and full of silent expectations.
Their Concern:‍
They think exploring within known circles feels safer and more “respectable.”
What They Need to Hear:‍
“I’ve already waited for the network to come through. If it was going to happen there, it probably would have by now. And even if something shows up, I can always consider it. But I need to move forward now-with a wider, more relevant pool and proper guidance. The Date Crew helps me do that without compromising on quality or comfort.”
❌ Objection 5: “This is too expensive. We’ll manage through our own methods and means.”
Your Reality:‍
You’ve already paid in time, stress, and emotional energy. You’ve experienced burnout, anxiety, and even self-doubt from how uncertain and endless this process has felt. The actual cost isn’t just money-it’s the toll it takes on your peace of mind.
Their Concern:‍
They’re worried about affordability or think this is an unnecessary spend.
What They Need to Hear:‍
“This isn’t just a transaction. It’s an investment in doing things properly. I’ve already paid enough in emotional energy. With The Date Crew, I get real progress, fewer dead ends, and expert support. If I’m willing to invest in my education, career, and fitness, why wouldn’t I invest in finding the right partner? This matters just as much.”
❌ Objection 6: “We’re not doing so badly that we need to hire a matchmaker.”
Your Reality:‍
You’ve worked hard to build your life. You’re independent, self-aware, and not looking for hand-holding. But you’re also realistic- you know this process isn’t as easy as it looks. And asking for help doesn’t mean failure. It means ownership.
Their Concern:‍
They think hiring a matchmaker signals desperation or failure.
What They Need to Hear:‍
“I’m not hiring a matchmaker because I’ve failed-I’m hiring one because I want to succeed. This is about efficiency, not helplessness. I’m choosing structure, clarity, and support instead of trial-and-error. I’m being intentional, not desperate.”
🎯 The Bigger Picture
Before you have this conversation, remind yourself:
This is your life, and you’re the one facing the brunt of the confusion, exhaustion, and emotional pressure that comes with finding a partner today.
So yes, involve your family. But don’t forget to honour your experience too.
If you’re ready to do things differently-with intention, structure, and guidance-then hiring The Date Crew isn’t a last resort. It’s the first smart step forward.
